BE A BETTER LISTENER
You have a good vocabulary. Also, you have good grammar, so why are you still daunted when you hear a native English speaker on the television, radio or in conversation? There is no doubt that listening and understanding a native speaker can be an unsettling experience for English students and if your work involves dealing with many people on a daily basis, you’ll do better in your job if you’ll learn how to listen well.
Becoming a better listener requires creating new habits. It’s similar to starting a new exercise plan or eating healthier. Listening is going to require some conscious changes in your conversations.
We listen to obtain information.
We listen to understand.
We listen for enjoyment.
We listen to learn.
Some tips make you a better listener: ( These are leading you to become an active listener)
- Ask questions: Ask a question that requires more than a yes or no answer. Better than asking, “How was your weekend?” you could ask, “Tell me about your weekend”
-Not talking when others are speaking (Pay attention): you need to really be paying attention to what they’re saying. Only after you've listened to their reply, should you think of your next question. Truly listening means you know when to be quiet and stop talking
-Being able to repeat what others have said, practically word-for-word.
-Letting others know you’re listening to facial expressions and verbal sounds (“Mmm- hmm”).
“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen”
“Nature gave us one tongue and two ears so we could hear twice as much as we speak”
“Hearing is listening to what is said. Listening is hearing what isn’t said ” Simon Sinek
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply” Stephen R. Covey