Etiquette Rules (part 2)
Etiquette Rules That Everyone Should Know part 2:
(How To Behave In A Restaurant)
Nobody wants to look like an idiot. Yet some people are really, really good at it. Especially in restaurants, where all it takes to look like a total dipshit is a snap of the finger or a bite of fake cake.
Consider this a starter pack on things not to do if you don't want to look stupid in a restaurant. Take these lessons to heart. No one wants to eat with an idiot, right? Unless it’s another idiot, of course - because even idiots don’t like to be lonely.
Be A Gentleman:
Grace is one of the finest qualities of a gentleman! This must be followed in a restaurant. There is no harm in being chivalrous and extending the chair out for a lady to sit (make sure the chair doesn’t screech). Opening doors for the women and helping elderly people in a restaurant will say a lot about your character and upbringing.
When you are seated at a table and your server comes to greet you, stop talking, get off the phone and respond. Think about how it feels for those waiting on you when you make them wait for a long time; you wouldn't do this to people at your work, so try not to do it in a restaurant.
Be helpful when the server asks for your drink:
Make it very clear what it is that you would like and if you need any changes, spell these out very clearly rather than hoping your server will read your mind. Be considerate if your server asks you if want something before the meal; this is often standard practice. Just say no if it doesn't interest you.
Avoid Being Noisy:
It is fun to hang out with your friends in a restaurant but not at the cost of disturbing the other diners. Avoid talking loudly; you can make wise and funny comments but keep it all low-decibel. Also, do not unnecessarily converse with people sitting at other tables and annoy them.
Use Of Napkins:
When it comes to eating, most of us tend to feed our clothes too. It is best to use the napkin provided to avoid any mishaps. Before eating, remove the napkin placed on the table, unfold it and rest in on your knees or lap. Once this is done, do not use it to wipe your face or other cutlery. Once you have finished eating, place the napkin, semi-folded, on the left side of your plate. Do not fold or place it on your used plates.
If you have patiently waited until your food was being cooked then what’s the harm in waiting until it has fully been served? Act maturely at the sight of food! Also, it is inadvisable to stuff your mouth with different kinds of food, at the same time. Never talk while chewing.
Treat The Waiters With Respect:
Above anything else, it is important to treat the server/waiter well. It is often believed that people are constantly judged by the way they treat another person. So be respectful! Whistling, hooting or making cheesy sounds to call the waiters is utterly disrespectful. Show some courtesy and expect good service in return.
Inform In Advance:
If you have a host who has invited you over and there has been a delay, make sure you inform the concerned person in advance. Otherwise, a reservation and food might go to waste.
If you have dropped food on the table or elsewhere, wait until the server picks it up. You need not worry. Another big mistake that most people make is cleaning the table where the food was dropped!
Poor Quality Service:
In case you are unhappy with the service provided, do not shout out your dissatisfaction or make a scene. This only gives the idea of dominant or aggressive behavior. Instead, tell the management politely, yet sternly, that you are not satisfied. If you are insistent, leave a suggestion note. This will probably improve their future services.
Style Of Holding Cutlery:
The European and American styles of holding a fork and knife are different. While the former suggests holding the knife in your right hand and the fork in your left, the latter, i.e. the American way, suggests holding the fork and knife such only till the food is cut, post which, the fork is transferred to the right hand. It is etiquette not to make clanging sounds (from the cutlery) or scratch the plate you are eating on. Never rest any of these tools on the table or table cloth; place them by neatly in your plate.
It is not a good idea to rest your elbows on the table. Sit straight and place your hands on your lap or the edge of the table. This not only gives you a smart look but it also helps the quick digestion of food.
Eat While You Talk Or Talk While You Eat:
The best way to deal with restaurant etiquette is not to talk with food in your mouth, or to be more clear, don’t chew in between a conversation. This site is indecent, gross and, not to mention, brings sheer embarrassment when you end up spitting food on your clothes or on the person in front of you.
Licking And Burping:
Even if the food was delicious, there is no need for finger-licking! Similarly, burping is absolutely unacceptable. In fact, while eating out you must make sure that you don’t overeat; that should avoid the unpleasant burping altogether. Even when you feel like it, excuse yourself, visit the washroom and burp in the privacy of your presence.
Pay your bill promptly:
When it comes to credit cards or debit, remember they are the same payment method as far as the server is concerned. Don't ask the server to add the tip - that is your job and you should write this in clearly. With cash, an experienced server can tell if you need change or not if you are using a 50 on a 25 dollar meal. But if a server says "I will be right back with your change" but you don't want any, say so right there and then to save them having to make a return trip for naught, especially on a busy night.
Thank The Service:
If you liked the service provided by the restaurant, do not hesitate to mention it as this does nothing to lower your image. In fact, it portrays good manners. This can also motivate the staff and management to work better.
If you are happy with the service you've received, be considerate and leave your waiter or waitress a tip. 10% of the cost of your bill, plus another 5% is usually considered acceptable for decent service. If you think that your server was exceptional, you may want to leave a little more. Leaving a tip is only common courtesy because the servers at most restaurants really don't get paid very much by their employers.